There is something rewarding - and sad - about realizing that someone you have had trouble working with has problems with other people as well.
A friend told me that Uncle Oscar told her that WE (meaning friend and Oscar) have a "failure to communicate".
No, Oscar, you do not want to make decisions that you would be held accountable for, so you speak in obtuse phrases so that the other person is accountable and you are not. Man up and be the principal.
Or is that beyond you?