How do I make you see . . . ?

..... that when I ask you to not eat in my room and you do because the rule "isn't that important" - that you are being disrespectful? ..... that when I leave work with a sub it is my attempt to do SOMETHING to raise your grade? ..... that I can teach but you will not learn without participating - and in math that means working problems? ..... that a test is not something you can look at, do nothing to prepare for - than after the fact get tutoring and "fix" your answers? Tests are announced and reviewed for in order to allow you time to, I don't know, prepare?