We tell students and our own children all the time to think about the advice they are following - or at least I do.
"If someone told you to jump off a building, would you do it?"
A friend was forced out of the profession this week for following, you guessed it, dumb advice. The administrators (or at least one wack job) lectured us in a meeting that if students say something that offends us, we should repeat the same word/phrase back to them so that they see how offensive it is.
Most of us realized this is an unsustainable piece of advice. I mean, I don't know what your students say daily but I know I am not repeating what mine say unless it is writing it on an office referral.
Friend had a student ask if he was the "only n***a" required to do something and she told him, yes, you are the only n***a. Sorry, most of us cannot say that word without penalties. Her penalty was her job.
Don't get me started on how THAT word needs to go away.
But, to go back to my point, it was dumb advice to begin with and it was dumb to follow it.
Shaking my head - you can't fix stupid.